Pure Intimacy: God's Design for Sex

Why am I here?

This site is for you if you struggle with same-sex attractions or care for someone affected by homosexuality.

This web site is for you if you are someone who struggles with same-sex attractions, if you have a friend or loved one affected by homosexuality, if you are a pastor, mentor or counselor helping someone who wants victory over homosexuality, or if you simply want to understand the truth about homosexuality in a church and culture that is confused and conflicted about this issue. 

The past few decades have certainly brought a great acceptance of homosexuality and bisexuality throughout society.  Gay activists and their allies have been extremely influential in media, entertainment, business, political and academic circles.  Many people now believe that science has proven that people are “born gay,” that being gay is an unchangeable characteristic inextricably tied to one’s essence, that anyone who opposes homosexuality is “homophobic” and “mean-spirited,” and that gay-identified men and women deserve protected class status.

This growing acceptance of homosexual behavior sprang from moral and societal confusion about sexuality in general, and from a rejection of the church’s clear teaching that full sexual expression was to be between a husband and wife within marriage.  Many came to believe, practice and teach that almost any sexual activity was good.  Beyond this, there is a growing belief that biological sex  –  male or female – is fluid and changeable.  Many in education and government have bought into the thinking that there are not just two sexes , but an infinite number of "genders”, and any individual could conceivably  “express” any number of “genders” over his or her lifetime. 

Some churches and denominations have responded to this sexual anarchy by becoming angry and condemning toward those struggling with sexual sins – especially those with same-sex attractions.  Others began to revise and re-interpret what the Bible clearly teaches about sex, sexuality and homosexuality – twisting Scripture so that gender confusion and homosexuality are now considered  “gifts” from God. 

Standing against both these extremes, and against a society filled with confusion about sex and sexuality , are Christians that hold to a biblical view of sexuality – that God created mankind male and female and that He intends for the full expression of sexuality to be within marriage between a husband and wife.  These believers also proclaim the good news that there is recovery and redemption for those caught in sexual sin – including homosexual sin.

Our desire at Pure Intimacy is to bring together some of the best from those writing from this perspective, offering hope to strugglers, to their families and friends, to churches and pastors, to counselors and educators – to anyone wanting to learn about God’s grace and truth for sexual strugglers.  To that end, we’ve brought together a wide variety of articles, personal stories and resources that will help you better understand homosexuality, see what healing and change might look like and hear from individuals affected by these issues.

May God guide you into His grace and truth as you read, receive and work toward a life rooted and grounded in Him.