Pure Intimacy: God's Design for Sex

Should the spouse check up on her husband all his life?

from a letter to Pure Intimacy

Joann Condie, LPC, NCC, RN

You are wise to avoid the role of detective, because your husband will eventually resent your best efforts and your partnership eventually devolves into parental hovering.  On the other hand, do not naively ignore obvious signs.  A Christian specialist will help you understand the difference between the two and will also teach you how to detect trouble before sexual acting out behavior surfaces.

Rather than assume the “once an addict, always an addict” mentality (which requires on-going surveillance), I suggest you lovingly confront your husband and insist on marital counseling.  If he resists, you must take the next crucial step as outlined in Matthew 18:15-17 and Dr. Dobson’s book, Love Must be Tough.  Hopefully, your husband will be ready to give up his white-knuckling tactics and embrace godly treatment. If you both follow through, a healthy, thriving marriage is within reach.

About the author

Joann Condie is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Nationally Certified Counselor and Registered Nurse who counsels individuals, couples, and families on a number of issues, including sexual addiction and sexual dysfunction. In addition to training professional counselors, physicians, and church leaders, Joann works at Focus on the Family and maintains a private practice in Colorado Springs, CO. www.renewingintimacy.com