If you’re new to Pure Intimacy, the Tiffany’s Story section of my blog can be pretty confusing. Without knowing my back story, nothing makes sense.
You can read through my archives, but that might take awhile considering there are 400+ posts in there! Instead, let me catch you up to speed:
Pure Intimacy was started as part of a huge blog network circa 2006. I took it over from another writer in 2007, and by late that year, that the blog was becoming my baby, evolving from a general place where a generic writer talked about sex-related bs to my story of submission and tips I learned along the way. The network gave me the option to leave with my work, and I took it. I started Pure Intimacy, the site you’re reading today, and it’s been amazing every since.
I’m Tiffany. I’m glad you’re here with me on this crazy journey.
Since this is a sex blog, most of the content relates to the men (and women) in my life. I’ve divided my life over the last five years into little “chapters” to help you catch up on the story and the cast of characters involved.
First, a few characters:
- J and the Girl Next Door: Two neighbors I used to fuck around with
- Daddy, or D: My first dom and to date, my best friend despite our history
- The Student: A fun lover
- V: A dom I dated briefly
- The Cowboy: A dom who I felt a very deep connection to, but who made life way too complicated
- MM: A Married Man who had an affair with me for several months
- The Prince: A long-time, long-distance friend who I slept with on his vacation
- Cash: The dom I am currently dating
Here’s how the story plays out:
Chapter One: J and the Girl Next Door: When I first started BMS, I was involved with a guy named J and his partner. They lived next door to me, hence the name. It was fun, but messy, and I’ve since moved (multiple times). We haven’t kept in touch, and I’m okay with that, but if you dig really deep, there are some awesome stories and fantasies about them.
Chapter Two: Daddy (D): Around the time I moved my blog to my own URL (early 2008), I met D at work. We hit it off right away and what started as innocent flirting soon escalated into much more. We brought an interesting element into the relationship – the curiosity to explore a Dominant/submissive (or D/s) relationship, so you’ll see many older posts refer to him as Daddy and there are even a few very early ones where we played around with “Master” before settling on Daddy. By spring 2008, he officially became my first dom, but he cheated on me and we broke up in October.
Chapter Three: 2009: I pined after D for a long time, but in April 2009, The Student came into my life. The Student was pure fun. We knew that a relationship would never work because we ultimately have different goals in life, but damn if we weren’t going to have some fun. And we did! Meanwhile, D and I continued a guarded friendship.
I started dating a Dom named V in July 2009. We had fun together, but the spark, the passion, the love…it wasn’t really building, as much as we both wanted it to, even though the sex was fun. After breaking up with V, The Student and I hooked up a few more times in 2009, but he eventually moved away for grad school.
Chapter Four: My Lovers Meet: Around the time I broke things off with V (fall 2009), I met a Married Man, otherwise known as MM. We innocently snuggled up together one night, and there was chemistry from the moment we met one another. When we met, at a work-related conference, D was also there (as was The Student…talk about complicated, right?). It was the first time D had seen me in person in a long time…and definitely the first time he saw me that I wasn’t in love with him anymore. It was a breaking point for him, and after that weekend, I got a text from D that he needed to leave my life because he couldn’t stand the thought that we weren’t together. MM and I continued our friendship, but never did more than kissing and flirt due to distance and his marital status.
Chapter Five: The Cowboy: In November 2009, a beautiful soul, who I’ll call The Cowboy came into my life. He was a dom, though we never hooked up. We had a blooming friendship but I grew to rely on him way too much for emotional stability because I was feeling so alone. Looking back on it, although he was sweet person, being around him was holding me back in life and feeding into my depression and anxiety. Eventually, around February 2010, he freaked out completely (over what? I’ll never truly understand), and left my life. I’m okay with that, but at the time, it really hit me hard. Posts from that time period are pretty dark.
Chapter Six: D, Round Two: In March 2010, D and I decided to attempt repairing our friendship. We had both grown a lot in the prior six months. In fact, by the beginning of April, we were even talking about getting back together, but I wanted to move slowly and rebuild our friendship first. I still didn’t fully trust him.
Then, at the end of April, I got really sick and was in the hospital. It scared D. A lot. More importantly, he realized that his feelings for me weren’t leading to a relationship outside of a friendship. I missed that memo, though.
In June, he met someone else. I didn’t think much of it, because I thought he was still into me, just moving slow at my request. We moved in together (separate bedrooms), and although we initially fooled around, things blew up when I found out that he was more interested in the girl he met in June than he was in me. We continued to live together throughout 2010 due to logistics, but things were super rough.
Chapter Seven: MM: In January 2011, while still living with D (and unhappily watching him try to get with the other girl), I met up with MM again. We had remained friends and flirted since initially meeting in late 2009, but finally hooked up, in a major way. We’re talking an entire four-day weekend in a hotel together, sometimes messing around for hours upon hours upon hours. He decided that he needed to talk to his wife of 10 years about how unhappy he was in their marriage.
In April 2011, I decided to move. The move would put me closer to MM and a number of other friends, and it would be healthier for my friendship with D if we didn’t live together. When I initially moved (now within a half-hour drive of MM), we saw one another often and hooked up a handful of times. He did talk to his wife somewhat, but it didn’t really change anything. I grew more and more frustrated with our arrangement.
Chapter Eight: Standing Up for Myself: In June, a guy called The Prince that I’ve virtually flirted with for years decided to stop by as part of a road trip. There were definitely sparks and we hooked up, even though we knew nothing could come of it since he lived so far away. It did, however, make me realize that things with MM were really stupid. So one night, after drinking too much, I gave him a piece of my mind and told him that he was treating me unfairly and I didn’t want to hook up anymore. It was a good decision. We’ve remained friends, but hold one another at a distance.
Chapter Nine: Cash: Since breaking things off with MM in June 2011, I’ve realized that what I really need is to get back to my BDSM desires. MM wasn’t into that at all, and even D wasn’t really interested in dominating me during our second go-round. I went out on a few dates and continued to flirt with The Prince virtually, but no one seemed to be a good fit and The Prince started dating someone new. Then I met Cash. As of February 2012, I’m officially off the market and enjoying exploring my submissive side with this wonderful dom, who came into my life unexpectedly and refused to leave, even when I tried to push him away. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for us.
So anyway, thanks again for being here. It means a lot that you all care enough to read what I have to say. I have a lot of cool things planned for BMS in 2012 and beyond, so I hope you’ll stay here with me. Love you all!