Because an Oxymoron Can Be Sexy as Hell If You Wear It Right.
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We aren’t all born with the body parts we need to have the kind of sex we want, or at least that’s what the latest survey says about men and women from all over the world. And the sex toy industry has been more than happy to oblige, swiftly crafting a wide range of strap-on dildos and vibrators to satisfy the evolving needs of the perverted public. What we have now are more options than we know what to do with, but that’s exactly what I’ve decided to write this guide.
You see, selecting a good strap-on can be a lot of work, even if you’ve done it a time or two. Not only does the industry keep introducing amazing products to the market, but the average consumer keeps asking for more. As a result, the variety of strap-on dildos available is staggering and the features thereof are as wide-ranged and unique as the people enjoying them. But with that advantage comes an inevitable drawback: You can’t just use whatever you stumble across. In fact, there are a myriad of considerations that have to be made before you can buy a strap-on worth its weight, regardless of your experience level, time constraints or stubbornness.
I learned about the importance of strap-on due diligence the hard way. Back in 2006 I made the mistake of purchasing a strap-on harness based solely on two factors: 1) its price tag, and 2) its appearance. Having only used a strap-on a handful of times, I had no idea about the relationship disaster I was getting myself into. Poorly made strap-ons are both painful and pitiful, making it difficult to enjoy sex or masturbation for quite a while afterwards. I’ll leave it at that; you just take my word for it. Let’s just say that harness quality is something you can’t afford to ignore.
And that’s precisely why I love strapless strap-on dildos. There are no harnesses to worry about and you still get the same basic enjoyment that you get with a traditional strap-on dildo. Had I known about these things a few years ago, I might not have ran my ex-lover off as quickly as I did. Asking someone to push the envelope in bed is one thing, but being responsible for a terrible experience because you didn’t search with your head on straight is another. Don’t end up like I did – all alone, having sex with toys every day and writing about it. Give yourself a shot by being a savvy shopper. Lesson Number One: Finding out what a strapless strap-on dildo even is.
Again, you may want to hurry through this but doing so will cause more harm than good. The reason is because strapless strap-ons are a relatively new kind of sex toy that require special usage abilities and maintenance habits. Unlike the standard strap-on that gets talked about all the time, the somewhat shy strapless models are generally reserved for people who know exactly what they want in the bedroom. On the other hand, these things are also good for those who’d like to experiment too. Either way, you’ll need to know what we’re talking about or you’ll be confused as hell here in a minute.
What Is a Strapless Strap-On Dildo?
To understand what a strapless strap-on dildo is, you need to deconstruct the term quite a bit. First of all, a dildo is simply a self-pleasure device of varying shapes, sizes and colors used to stimulate the g-spot or p-spot of the user via massage and/or penetration. They come in a wide variety of forms, with today’s best dildos featuring high-end, hyper-realistic attributes and/or luxury-grade materials. Most people reading a buyer’s guide like this already know what a dildo is, but it’s important to have a quick reminder of the actual definition just in case your expectations are out of wack.
In any event, a strap-on is generally defined as either an adjustable harness with a hole cut out for a compatible dildo or a complete device that features both the adjustable harness and the attached/detachable dildonic accessory of your choice (usually included with the purchase). And while both of those styles have their merits, using each requires a different set of tools, skills and considerations. But no matter how you cut it, strap-on dildos play a significant role in the sex lives of perfectly normal people all over the world – so much so that the industry has started creating strapless versions for even more exciting opportunities.
Strapless strap-on dildos are in a league of their own, fashioned out of high-end components and featuring attributes that are characteristic of luxury sex toys – fine craftsmanship, hypoallergenic materials, ergonomic shaping and user-friendly control interfaces (where applicable). Yes, today’s best strapless strap-ons even come with a few vibration features to play with, although you can usually turn that setting off if you’re into straight sex or masturbation. The point is that a good strapless strap-on dildo can change the way you have sex forever, but that’s only possible if you choose the right one. And how do you choose the right one, you ask? By gaining an appreciation of the product’s worth, first and foremost.
Why a Strapless Strap-On Dildo Though?
According to a recent study, more than half of the world’s population wants to experiment with a strap-on of some sort. Half of those people don’t attempt it because they’re unsure about how to find a good one, but many of those folks admit that their main apprehension comes from not fully understanding how awesome strapless strap-on dildos really are. I mean, it’s not like there’s a class on this stuff. Our parents don’t talk to us about it, our friends keep it to themselves and we’re afraid to bring it up with partners for fear of driving them away. The only option you’ve got is to listen to what I’m about to say.
There are several reasons why I believe that every sexually active person on the planet should own at least one strapless strap-on dildo. For starters, the good ones are super user-friendly and can be used in a variety of different ways, not just in the way you’re probably thinking – as a replacement dick. According to my own study, here are the top 7 ways a strapless strap-on dildo can improve your sex life and increase the intensity of your orgasms:
- Hands-Free Fun
There’s nothing quite like giving or receiving pleasure while having your hands tied up, but traditional dildos don’t restrain your hands in the kinky way you’re thinking. Strapless strap-on dildos, however, free up your hands for things like fondling, lube application, settings manipulation and anything else you can think of. In fact, that’s exactly why so many people love strap-ons in the first place: Because they make it easier for you to have you cake and eat it too (literally).
- Dual Stimulation
Perhaps the best part about using a strapless strap-on is enjoying the way it’s designed. Strapless strap-on dildos require the user to wear one side of the device inside their rectum, basically doubling the toy as a butt plug or prostate massager (if it vibrates). Each thrust of the dildo therefore leaves the p-spot dripping its milk like a dairy cow on harvest day.
- Double Penetration
If used for this purpose, a good strapless strap-on dildo can suffice for some steamy double penetration. This is only possible if the harness is worn either above or below a fully erect penis, but who says you can’t add a cock ring into the mix to get things crackin’? No matter how you put it, make sure to slap on plenty of lube so you can enjoy the ride.
- Experimentation
Not sure what you like and don’t like in the sack? A well-made strapless strap-on dildo can help you and/or your partner safely experiment with different positions and penetrations. It’s not everyday you get to have another dick in the room without causing a fight. Take advantage, because you’re bound to have this sex toy for quite a while if you hunt down the right one.
- Couple’s Play
Obviously, strapless strap-on dildos are made to be enjoyed as a couple. Instead of having only one person enjoy the sensations of the dildo, however, strapless models allow everyone to get in on the action. The anal stimulation provided by the overall design of this toy leaves each partner fully satisfied by the end of playtime, every time.
- Compatibility with Other Toys
A well-fitted strapless strap-on dildo plays nicely with others. By that I mean you can wear or use other sex toys when enjoying your strapless strap-on. Whether that be the cock ring I mentioned above, a secondary butt plug, some nipple clamps or a couple BDSM restraints, strapless strap-on dildos are a wandering man or woman’s best friend and a sex toy collectors wettest dream.
- Erectile Dysfunction/Premature Ejaculation Assistance
Strap-on dildos are notorious for giving men their swag back. By that I mean that these innovative devices help the partners of men with erectile dysfunction enjoy a healthy orgasm as often as they like. And for those who can get it up but only for a few minutes, strapless strap-on dildos not only help you continue to pleasure your partner once your erection if gone but they can also stimulate your p-spot enough to engage the rocket faster than without.
For the most part, strapless strap-on dildos are used by women who enjoy anal stimulation as much as vaginal penetration. High-quality models can be “strapped” to the anus or vaginal canal though, making them versatile for the men folk as well. I’m just saying that the girl-on-girl action supported by these sex toys is virtually unmatched and, with a high-quality shaft in the mix, rivals the real thing in a way that’s even better than nature intended.
The Top 5 Ways to Tell If That Strapless Strap-On Is Worth It or Not
Breaking the rules like that is a dangerous thing if you’re not careful, and that’s why using a strapless strap-on without some training can result in a terrible experience like the one I refused to discuss earlier. Now that you know what one is and why they’re such a popular product in the sex you world, you’ll need to know the best ways to track down your ideal version. This is where your attention is crucial. If you skip this part, you’re in the hands on the clever marketers who don’t give a damn about whether you’re pleased or not. All they care about is your money. All you need to care about are the following 5 things:
- The Size
Size is important when it comes to everything, from cars and clothes and homes and highways. Strapless strap-on dildos are no exception, especially since they’re designed to penetration you and your partner’s bodies simultaneously. Check the specs, my friend. The insertable length is something completely different than the total length. Subtract the larger number from the smaller number to determine how much space you’ll have for a grip. And don’t forget to look at the circumference (girth) of both the dildo and the anal/vaginal plug. Not only will that component have its own unique dimensions but it’s likely to get used on someone of the opposite sex who may or may not be comfortable with larger objects in their anus. Does the strapless strap-on you’re considering have the measurements that make everyone happy? If not, move on to the next one because they come in every size imaginable.
- The Shape
The shape of your strapless strap-on will play a significant role in how much pleasure you and/or your partner derives from it. Carefully consider the texture and shape of the shaft especially, since it’s the main part and can be used independently of the wearer. Also look closely at the angle of the two parts – the dildo and the anal plug. Make sure there’s enough space for you and/or your partner’s body to fit comfortably during rough, lubed-up sex. And if you’re looking for something that’s a little meaner to your g-spot or p-spot, hunt for a strapless-strap on dildo that features a curved shaft or bulbous butt plug.
- The Features
Not all strapless strap-on dildos are made the same, even models that look and function similarly. Peep the features to find out if you’ve got a good one on your hands. The best models will always feature high-end, luxury options like a brand-new car, plus they’ll be easy to use and relatively simple to maintain. High-quality strap-on dildos with strapless capabilities typically feature stuff such as integrated vibrating motors, ergonomic handles and control interfaces, silky-smooth materials, weighted or dual cores for a realistic sensation, and shapes that are specifically designed for one purpose or another. As perhaps the most couples-friendly sex toy on the modern-day market, it’s important to search for features that support that upwardly mobile trend – not just because it keeps the manufacturers on their toes but because it guarantees you and your lover will have a terrific time in the sack.
- The Materials
Speaking of features and terrific times, the materials with which any sex toy is made cannot be ignored or else things could get ugly in a hurry. High-end strapless strap-on dildos are always made from skin-safe, hypoallergenic materials such as silicone, PVC, TPE, polycarbonate, elastomer, alloy or a combination thereof. No matter how tight your budget is or how attractive the marketer has made the product look, never purchase a strap-on that contains latex, phthalates or parabens since all three of those materials have been linked to serious health problems and/or allergic reactions. For the most part, those things have been eradicated from the market, but I still see a few stragglers from time to time so be careful.
- The Manufacturer
Dealing with reputable manufacturers can make this entire hunt a whole lot easier, not to mention it can help you avoid materials, features, sizes and shapes that aren’t conducive with a healthy sex life. Today’s top sex toy manufacturers have made it their mission to create high-quality products and break the taboos on the industry. Only buy from brands you trust with good customer reviews. This guarantees your satisfaction, plus it helps you avoid the trappings of bad marketing. On top of that, some of the best sex toy makers have made a point to create products that work in unison with one another. You wouldn’t want to miss out on that love boat just to save a few bucks.
Aside from those important factors, there are a few more things you need to know before shopping for your first (or next) strapless strap-on dildo. The following things have more to do with yourself than the product in question, although the two go hand-in-hand as you’ll soon see.
- Your Skin Type – Some people may have an aversion to certain materials.
- Your Experience Level – A complex device isn’t appropriate for someone who’s never tried this before, just like an overly simple device isn’t suitable for a pro.
- Your Partner’s Preference – That strapless strap-on in your shopping cart may look amazing to you, but what does you partner think about it?
- Your Lube Selection – Keep in mind that your personal lube game needs to play nicely with your sex toy team: Silicone toy = water-based lube, always.
- Your Budget – Make a flexible spending limit and then be prepared to break it because you’re bound to find a pleasant surprise out there waiting for you.
The Three Kings: My Favorite Strapless Strap-Ons
Still not sure which strapless strap-on dildo to pick? I have a few suggestions for you. Out of all the strapless strap-on dildos in the entire world (provided I’ve seen enough of them to be considered an expert), the following are what I believe to be the top three greatest examples of what a good sex toy should be.
BEST OVERALL: The Tantus Feeldoe Stout
You immediately see and feel the difference with the fancy-shmancy Tantus Feeldoe Stout strapless strap-on dildo. This sexy 7-inch shaft features a hefty 5.5-inch girth and uses a gentle curve and a single-speed vibrating bullet to generate intense orgasms no matter how you use it. Made from medical-grade silicone, the TFS also has a ridged clitoral stimulation pad and a rounded headed to please the wearer. With a super simple one-button operating interface and a removable bullet (see the base of the toy), this thing is perhaps the most versatile and user-friendly strapless strap-on dildos in all the land.
Pro: Whether used with the vibe bullet or not, the Tantus Feeldoe Stout performs very well under pressure, if you know what I mean.
Con: It only has one vibrating speed which I thought was kind of frustrating once my body started getting used to the sensation.
BEST FOR BEGINNERS: The Strap-On-Me
Available in two different sizes – the Regular and the Extra-Girthy – the Strap-On-Me strapless strap-on is both a mouthful to say and a body full to enjoy. This silky-smooth silicone plaything measures 6-6.5 inches in insertable length with varying circumferences based on your desires. It has a unique harness compatibility which is virtually unheard of in the strapless arena, making it an ideal addition into any newcomer’s collection. On top of that, it features a realistic shape and human-like detailing, complete with a bulbous head and a couple realistic veins. The whole thing is juxtaposed by a perfectly sized and shaped butt plug and each part can be bent to fit you and/or your partner’s body and/or sexual position.
Pro: The flexibility of this device makes it extremely friendly with other sex toys (like clit suckers, for example).
Con: It doesn’t have any vibration settings to play with.
BEST FOR VIBRATIONS: The Urge
I had the urge to put this one on my top 3 list because of it’s extremely high-quality features and user-friendly technological components. With a wireless remote control and a fully rechargeable battery, the Urge is a strapless strap-on dildo of surprising capabilities and epic proportions – 6 inches in length and 5 inches in girth to be exact. Although not the largest of them all, this big boy is not only curved for maximum pleasure but also equipped with 8 different vibration modes and a waterproof body. It’s made from skin-safe silicone, uses dual motors for maximum power and even has a textured clit pad as a bonus.
Pro: The battery lasts for almost 2 hours but only takes about 1 hour to fully charge.
Con: The remote requires its own batteries and the manufacturer doesn’t provide a carrying case or storage container of any kind.
The End Game
I’ve got to say that the strapless strap-on dildo an acquired taste, albeit a taste that’s picked up immediately upon the first use for most people. These high-end, body-friendly, ergonomically sensitive, technologically savvy sex toys are addictive. They’re the bee’s knees and that’s easy to see if you can pick out the right one. There are thousands of different models to choose from, but the most important thing is that the one you choose provides you and/or your partner with a safe and satisfying sexual experience (hopefully more than once). If that takes a seven-inch shaft and a four-inch butt plug with a bulbous head, a clitoral stimulation pad and a handful of vibration settings, then so be it. The strapless strap-on dildo is an oxymoron that will leave you silently screaming all day and night, but if you do it right.
