When a man’s imagination has been turned to evil, it has serious implications for his marriage. His imagination has trained him to be a user, and he will attempt to use his wife. He can be very clever in the ways he manipulates her. He may try the “sweet” approach-buying her flowers, taking her out to dinner, picking up some little thing he thinks she’ll like–to manipulate her emotions so she feels she “owes” him something. Then, at the right moment, he’ll inform her that the payback is a sexual act. If subtlety fails to work, he may use more drastic measures, such as shaming or scaring her into compliance. The goal is to turn his wife into the type of woman he has fantasized about.
If the women of his dreams are passive, he will want his wife to be passive. Therefore, if she has an opinion, she’s being controlling.
If the women of his dreams have no needs but his needs, he will want his wife to have no needs but his needs. Therefore, if she has a need, she is being demanding.
If the women in his dreams have no dimension other than sexual, he will want his wife to have no dimension other than sexual. Therefore, if she has goals and dreams for herself, she’s being too independent.
If the women of his dreams are aroused by acts of perverted sex, he will want his wife to be aroused by acts of perverted sex. Therefore, if she can’t get turned on, she’s frigid.
If the women of his dreams are luscious young babes with endless breasts and legs, he will want his wife to be a luscious young babe with endless breasts and legs. Therefore, if she’s just a normal woman who’s had a couple of kids, then she’s going to be too flat, too fat, too old, or too average to suit his gourmet taste.
When that man looks at his wife through distorted eyes, it distorts his ability to know who she is. Is she controlling, demanding, too independent, frigid, and ugly? Or is she just normal?
